The bond between the father and his son is a rare treasure. The value is beyond gold. Most sons missed on this unparalleled experience. Those who experienced it holds amazing testimonies of how the experience shaped their lives. But those who were not privileged with the experience, are left with an undefined gap deep within their souls. For some is because of absent fathers and for some is because fathers lacked father and son bonding ideas.
In this article, I intend to share light on plenty of bonding ideas ensuring that there is no excuse whatsoever for fathers not to bond with their sons.
I won’t go any further without being straight about this crucial truth, bonding does not happen by osmosis, that it takes intentional fathers to create time, and set the tone for the relationship.
Watch Movies & documentaries
Movies are an old-time bonding game plan. They work well for couples and friends. Movie nights play a very important role in most relationships. They can still perform the same magic of connection between the father and son. How about a big bowl of pop corns and some drinks, dim the lights, close the door, maybe put a Father and Son no interruption note, get in your best comfortable positions, and enjoy a movie or documentary of choice with each other.
To extract value from what you just watch have a fun and empowering conversation afterward. This is the best time to influence his interpretations and perceptions about the world and life.
Be Vulnerable with Each Other
It takes courage to be vulnerable but the direct benefit of vulnerability is a deep connection. So if the father aims for deep connection with the son, vulnerability is not an option. In an age-appropriate way be vulnerable with your son, the levels of vulnerability will differ based on the age of the child. Fathers should not always put a superhero mask. They should be willing to express their desirable and undesirable feelings with their kids.
The father’s vulnerability will create a safe and secure space for the son to be vulnerable. This is a kind of environment that will help the boy to let his guard down, to be open with the father even during the worst times of his life. Believe me – every loving father desires this but not all fathers are willing to model vulnerability.
Vulnerability will sure enhance connection and it will remain one of the most crucial life lessons a father can teach his son.
Reading aloud for kids has always been left to mommies. sessions with It is not a bad idea at all if fathers can have Read Aloud sessions with their babies, toddlers and children who are still learning to read.
How to set up these sessions will depend on the age of the child and their reading abilities. As children grow to tweens and teens age, they can decide on common reads. Choose a book, read it together or separately and discuss your take home lessons and the core message of the writer
Book choices can be determined by the interests of the child and the lessons the father want to drive home.
You can utilize Scribd ( Digital Library with over 1 million books ) to access books that covers diverse interests. Check my full Scribd review here.
Build, create, fix, learn something new together. I recommend getting clues about what to work on from the boy’s interests. There are plenty of ideas that can be carried out in a low budget if with any budget at all. Build with card boxes. papers, explore DIY crafts on YouTube, and just have fun.
Take a short, online, engaging, age-appropriate online course together. How about learning a new language? Imagine moments where, while within a group of people you can throw in lines that are only understood by dad & Son.
Wait. that is not all, what do you think about learning a musical instrument together? You can find lessons online or find someone to teach, it doesn’t matter, what truly matters is that I am doing it with Dad ( Proud son moments )
Take walks – Take drives
Father and son no agenda walks or drives are just beautiful. The conversations are relaxed, nothing like the dinner table kind. The guards are down, the air is different, there are no rules nor protocols, there is very minimal eye contact just the right atmosphere to discuss what you both are not comfortable discussing at home around the girls or on a face to face formal meeting.
Father and son journals can be kept as monuments of their relationship. It is something the son can pass to his sons or at least refer to during his journey as a father.
Journals about All Things. The good the bad and the ugly. Let the journal and its pen be kept in a place where it will be easily accessible by both parties. Agree on how to use it.
The truth is there are days where we cannot put our thoughts into speech but can put them into text. The father and the son can both pour their hearts out on paper during such days. This can just be the beginning of a great conversation that can be continued during the walks, drives, and dates.
Help with school work
School work can be time-consuming both in and outside the schoolyard. It can leave very limited time for family connections, but as the saying goes ‘ If you can’t beat them join them’ rather than waiting for the child to finish their homework so that you both watch a movie or whatever the plan is get involved, help, be interested and be present.
This can be an expression of the value you put on his schoolwork & development.
Father and Son dates
Frequent dates have a way of keeping the love candle burning. Dates are perceived as special moments. They have a way of communicating lave and value. They tell the next person that you are worthy of my time and in most cases my money. .
Dates are about leaving everything behind just to focus on this one particular person. They can vary from restaurants outings to walks in the park to a movie night at home or the cinema, to a sporting event to a camp adventure or a day out fishing. Trying different things will add the necessary spice that you both look forward to
Stories are powerful. Share personal stories, other people’s stories, stories you read about. Nothing captures kid’s attention than a well-narrated story. Plan it if you have to. Tell it in such a way that it will engage his senses and imagination.
This might just be an opportunity to develop storytelling skills, the skill that will benefit you beyond this relationship.
Leave no memory uncaptured, take a lot of pictures together. Pictures are a great memory prompts, I am sure you sat down at one point of your life and went through an old album. Such moments are normally accompanied by smiles. During this social media age, such beautiful moments make great TBT’s. ( Throw Back Thursday)
Do chores together
Think of a day when you’ll just wake up and announce to everybody in the house Relax, put your legs up enjoy the day, the cleaning and the cooking are on us today. It will not only give others a break but it will deepen the bond between the two.
You can also look at gardening, plumbing, and fixing things together. This provides the son with on-job learning, with this kind of a shadowing experience he will never fall short of understanding who he is as a man, how to be and what to do.
Play is known to be the foundation of self-expression. The best way to know and connect with any child is not to sit around a round table with them but it is to play with them. Play happens to be their primary language.
Play video games, play chess, play lego, play board games, play rough and tumble games, build a ford, blindfold each other, pull safe pranks, find more games and continue to speak the language he understands best – PLAY.
Affirm each other
Affirmations are one of the love languages, whether we acknowledge it or not we all have a desire to be acknowledged. Nothing turns on the son’s confidence than the father’s affirmation. Fathers are seen as a standard and kids usually wanna know that they are meeting the standard. The best way to go about this is words of affirmations.
Tell him I believe in you, I’m proud of you, You are special, You are my blessing, I’m privileged to be your father, Your future is bright and more.
Observe what he is good at and make sure he never hears the end of it. Catch him doing something good when he least expected you to be watching and blow a trumpet about it. Ooze with gratitude towards him
Have pet names for each other
There is just something special about calling me with the name that fully expresses how you feel and think of me. Much thoughts should not be given to what is the best appropriate name, such names naturally flows from the heart. Keep connecting it will soon flow and you will know when its the right name.
Design a father & son T – Shirt
Its time for some creativity. Seal the bond, design a T-shirt that tells the world what your relationship stands for, or how you value this relationship.
This public expression of love and togetherness will surely seal the deal of love, acceptance, and belonging
Material possessions can never replace the deep need and desire of a son to connect with his father