I love my kids, God gave me three beautiful ones. I am ready and I am willing to do whatever it takes to ensure that they are well, comfortable, happy, and that they grow to be sound, well rounded human beings. Every day when I wake up, I think and explore different ways to achieve that. I have done and continue to do as much as I possibly can but having done all, I acknowledge that I am human, I am limited, I have limited time and limited resources, that I would want to protect them but I can’t be everywhere, that I would love to give them all they need and desire but I don’t have everything, that I can only shape their behavior to a certain length but the core of who they are, needs their Creator who can see and have access to areas of their being that I cannot touch.
Having done all I am left with but one thing, which is prayer. The power of prayer in shaping our kids should not be underestimated as we raise and groom our kids.
What is prayer
Prayer is talking to God, petitioning Him on things beyond our abilities.
You will agree with me that in our parenting journey there are things that are beyond our abilities. Things beyond our understanding, beyond our resources e.g the safety and the health of our kids, who they hang out with, etc, because this is beyond us, we can only look up to Jesus the author and the finisher of our faith to cover up for our limitations.
Why should parents pray?
To partner with God
To acknowledge our limitation
Why do we need to partner with God, because we are limited and He is not. Whatever is a big deal to us its nothing to Him. Who wouldn’t want such a partner? Luke 1:37 – For with God nothing shall be impossible.
3. Because our responsibility towards our kids is not only for the physical but for their soul and spirit.
Every parent desires and anticipate great success in their child life, but in most cases, the success we anticipate is all in the physical, we foresee success in business, in their careers and their relationships but we hardly ever spare a thought that their soul and spirit also need some grooming and nurturing.
‘ Matthew 16: 26 ‘What good will it be for someone to gain the whole world, yet forfeit their soul? Or what can anyone give in exchange for their soul?’
1 John 1:4 ‘ I have no greater joy than to hear that my children are walking in the truth’.
4. To ask God for guidance & to seek parental wisdom
Wisdom is the quality of having good judgment, knowing what next to do, or say. Would you agree with me that, as parents, we are sometimes clueless about what should be the next right move concerning our children.If you find yourself there know that if you ask Him, God is ready to generously give you the wisdom and answers you need when you ask him. Believe Him.
James 1:5 “If you need wisdom, ask our generous God, and he will give it to you. He will not rebuke you for asking.”
5. To commit them and they’re every move into the hands of their creator
The truth is, we are just stewards entrusted with our kid’s life but full ownership is reserved for God and Him alone. He is the one with the master plan hence our responsibility is to petition Him for the plan and the wisdom to execute it.
Jeremiah 29: 11 ‘For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the LORD, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future’.
6 . To seek the creator’s purpose about their lives.
We are all born for a specific purpose and our contentment as we mature is dependent on discovering and living up to that specific purpose. Purpose is something that most adults are still struggling to discover. We must help our kids discover theirs before they embark on the wrong path. The following scriptures are clear on the fact that we were predestined before we were even born.
Acts 13: 36 “Now when David had served God’s purpose in his generation, he fell asleep; he was buried with his ancestors and his body decayed.
Ephesians 2: 10 For we are God’s handiwork, created in Christ Jesus to do good works, which God prepared in advance for us to do
7. To break generational curses
There are patterns that sometimes repeat themselves within family lines, some are good and some are bad. The good can be preserved and promoted to enhance their flow from one generation to the next and the bad should be put to a halt. Children should never suffer due to the iniquities and curses of the previous generation.
Lamentations 5:7 Our fathers sinned, and are no more; and we bear their iniquities.
8. We pray to teach them to pray
The best way to teach prayer is to model it Let our children see and hear us pray. Teaching them the importance of prayer and how to pray is a legacy they will treasure for the rest of their lives. It might feel pointless when you teach them while they are young, he might not see the need now but we shouldn’t be weary because when they are old they will remember and understand
Proverbs 22:: 6 ‘Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it’.
9. We pray for peaceful parenting
The peace I am talking about is not dependent on circumstances around you, It has nothing to do with what your child is doing but it is the peace that is given by God, for you to enjoy it, in different circumstances. It is the peace that expresses that you have surrendered to God and you are confident He will not fail concerning your children.
Philippians 4:6-7“Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known to God. And the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.”
10. Fear against possible dangers
Parents will have peace if they can have an assurance that their kid’s safety is guaranteed. Thoughts of some danger hovering over your child’s life is enough to give any parent sleepless night but because we can only be at one place at a time its important that we surrender our kid’s safety to the omnipresent God.
Psalm 32: 7 You are my hiding place; you will protect me from trouble and surround me with songs of deliverance.
11. Fear concerning their health
When doctors and specialists fail concerning our child health, our last and ultimate hope remains in the one who knitted the child in your womb, take the matter to God in prayer
3John 1:2 Dear friend, I pray that you may enjoy good health and that all may go well with you, even as your soul is getting along well.
12 .Fear that they will fail in their different endeavors
We should make it a habit to commit our child every move to God, God promised us to bless the works of our hands. Fervently pray for your child at every phase of his life.. Pray when he is going to start a new grade, pray as he joins the new sort club, when he goes to college, when he starts a business, when he starts dating, the list is endless.
Proverbs 16: 3 Commit to the LORD whatever you do, and he will establish your plans.
Psalm 37:4 Delight yourself in the Lord and he will give you the desires of your heart.
13 Fear of wrong company
This is every parent’s worse nightmare to see their kids associating with a bad company is the genesis of all that destroys good character and behavior. unfortunately, this is just one of the things that kids are quick to defend – their friends. When everything else fails don’t give up because God can intervene in unexpected ways, turn to prayer.
1 Corinthians 15 :33 Do not be misled: “Bad company corrupts good character.
1Proverbs 13: 20 Walk with the wise and become wise, for a companion of fools suffers harm.
The list is truly endless, We pray for the hearts of those who went wayward to come back to God We pray to forbid the devil access to our kids, we pray because we understand that there is a battle over our child life and our victory is in God We pray for them to grow in the knowledge of God ,we pray for all their needs to be met
I remember, during my university days, a friend of mine came back from holidays not happy at all, he was deeply troubled. Upon inquiry he narrated a story that shocked me. He explained that for years every time before he leaves home after the holidays his mother will usually sit him down to pray for him. He knew he was a wayward child but he believed and knew that his mother’s prayers are what preserved him even in his wayward ways
Good news he eventually embraced Christ as his Lord and savior and learned to pray for himself. Even if he valued his mother’s prayers this much, his mother might have never known the value that her prayers add in her son’s life .very few kids go back just to say thank you mom/dad for praying for me, but deep within they know they need to those prayers.
Kids need praying parents, I recently saw a post on Facebook of one celebrity who is doing well in his music career, publicly expressing his heartfelt gratitude to his father, appreciating him for his never-ending prayers for him.
I have been privileged to witness many parents reaping the fruits of praying for their kids over time.
And I can conclude that prayer is one of the best parenting tips I can offer to parents who desire to raise their sons to be incredible men.